Watching World Cup Alone

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Nobody asked.\n\n## The apartment sounds like a library\n\nEveryone is at a bar, or a friend’s place, or a stadium. I’m in my apartment where the only sounds are the refrigerator humming and my upstairs neighbor’s cat running back and forth at 3 AM like the apartment is on fire. The walls feel thinner at night. They always do.\n\nI can hear my neighbor watching TV through the wall — I can tell by the bass thump thump thump of what sounds like a soccer game but I can’t be sure. Maybe it’s just Netflix. Maybe it’s nothing.\n\nThe thing about watching the World Cup alone is that the world makes sure you know you’re alone. The camera pans across crowds. Friends hugging. Strangers in bars shouting. The announcer keeps saying “incredible atmosphere” and “electric crowd” and I’m sitting here in my boxers with the air conditioning on because my apartment gets warm at night in summer.\n\nI had the option to go out. Three people texted me today asking if I wanted to come to a bar in Williamsburg. I said maybe. Then I said I had to work. Then I stopped responding. I didn’t have to work. I just didn’t want to be the quiet one at the loud table.\n\n## My friends assume I’m with someone\n\nNobody asks if I’m okay. Nobody notices I’m not responding. I just see the high-fives in my notifications. Someone posted an Instagram story at a watch party with twelve people and the caption said “best night of my life” and I watched it three times and put my phone down and walked to the kitchen and stood there for two minutes doing nothing.\n\nIt’s the small things that crush me. Not the big stuff. I can handle the big stuff. I can handle failing a project at work. I can handle a relationship ending. I can handle my dad getting sick. What I can’t handle is watching a friend group chat explode with laughter and realizing that I wasn’t part of the joke. Not because they left me out — because I never even got the message. I muted it last week.\n\nI muted it because every notification felt like a small reminder that I was somewhere else. Watching. Not included. There but not there. Present in the chat history but absent from the dinner table.\n\nAnd the worst part — I muted it on purpose. I chose this. I chose to sit here and watch the dots appear one by one without ever opening the chat. Because opening the chat would mean admitting I was alone. And admitting I was alone would mean I’d have to do something about it. And doing something about it would mean admitting I have a problem.\n\nWhich I do. I have a problem.\n\n## I used to love this\n\nI watched the 2018 World Cup in a cramped apartment in Berlin with seven other people, beer everywhere, and I still remember that night better than most of my relationships. Someone brought a friend who brought a stranger who ended up sleeping on our couch because they missed the last train. We cooked pasta at midnight. We argued about offside calls. We sang the Croatian anthem badly and nobody cared.\n\nWhat changed?\n\nI moved cities. Twice. Then three times. Then I moved again. And now I’m in Brooklyn, which is supposed to be this cool place where everyone is creative and interesting and somehow I ended up not knowing anyone within a forty-minute subway ride. I have work friends. I have Twitter friends. I have that one friend in LA I haven’t seen in eighteen months. But I don’t have the kind of friends you text at 2 AM when Mbappé scores.\n\nAnd I’m 33. Which means I’m too old to keep pretending I’m just “too busy” to make new friends. I’m 33 and I can feel the social muscle atrophying. It’s like my chest goes tight when I think about reaching out to someone. The palms sweat. The throat closes. I’d rather eat pad thai alone on my kitchen floor than type “hey what’s up” to someone I haven’t spoken to in six months.\n\nBecause what’s up with that? What’s the opener? What do you say? “Hey, I was thinking about you”? That’s weird. “Hey, want to grab coffee”? That’s also weird because it’s been too long and now it feels like a date. “Hey, just wanted to check in”? Even worse. Now we sound like a hospital.\n\nI don’t know when friendship became something that requires a meeting agenda. But somewhere between college and now, it did.\n\n## It’s not even about soccer\n\nIt’s about the fact that I can sit in a stadium with 80,000 people and still feel invisible. Or that I can be at home in my own city and feel like nobody knows I exist. The World Cup is just the loudest version of every other Tuesday. It’s the Super Bowl. It’s the Oscars. It’s New Year’s Eve. Every major event is another reminder that there are people who celebrate together and people who celebrate alone, and I’m starting to run out of excuses for being in the second group.\n\nMy therapist — yes, I have one, I can afford it, that’s another layer of guilt — keeps asking me why I think I need a “reason” to text someone. “You don’t need a reason,” she says. “You can just text someone ‘thinking of you.’” And every time she says that, my stomach tightens, because what does that even mean? Thinking of you. About what? Why me? Why now?\n\nI’m realizing as I type this that I’ve turned basic human connection into a transaction. I only reach out when I need something. I only respond when I’m invited. I only show up when it’s planned. Anything spontaneous feels like walking into a room where everyone already knows each other and I’m holding a drink I don’t even want.\n\nAnd the wild thing is — I know exactly how I got here. I know it’s the seven jobs in ten years. I know it’s the two cross-country moves. I know it’s the pandemic that erased whatever fragile social muscle I had left. I know it’s the fact that I went from “I’ll make friends when I move” to “I’ll make friends when I settle down” to “I’ll make friends when I have time” to “I’ll make friends when I feel less tired” to “I’ll make friends when I’m not so tired of being alone that the thought of being with people makes me want to lie down.”\n\nI keep thinking if I can just name the problem, I can fix it. But the problem is named. The problem has been named. The problem has been named by every therapist, every friend, every family member, every well-meaning stranger on the subway who asks me why I look so tired. The problem is that I’m lonely. And I keep waiting for someone to come fix it without me having to be the one who shows up first.\n\n## I called my mom at 4 AM\n\nShe picked up on the second ring. She knew something was wrong before I said anything. “Baby, are you watching the game alone?” And I just cried. Not the dramatic crying. Just the quiet kind where your chest goes tight and your eyes get hot and you can’t get the words out. She didn’t ask me to explain. She just stayed on the line. I could hear her TV in the background. She was watching too.\n\nWe stayed on the phone for forty minutes. We didn’t talk about the game. She told me about my dad’s garden. I told her about a meeting at work that stressed me out last week. She asked if I was eating enough. I said yes. She said “you sound tired.” I said I was.\n\nBefore she hung up she said, “Honey, the next time you want to watch a game, just call me. I’ll put it on. We can be two people alone in two different cities watching the same thing. That’s not nothing.”\n\nI laughed. And then I cried again. Because my mom — who lives four hours away and is in her late sixties — is the only person in my life who picks up at 4 AM without asking why. And I don’t know what to do with that information except sit with it.\n\n## I’m writing this on the internet at 4:30 AM\n\nI don’t know why I’m writing this. I don’t know who I’m writing it for. Maybe for me. Maybe for the next person sitting alone at 3 AM watching a game nobody knows they’re watching. Maybe for the friend who muted the group chat last week and didn’t tell anyone. Maybe for my mom, who is the only person in the world who picks up at 4 AM without asking why.\n\nI know this isn’t going to fix anything. I know tomorrow I’m going to wake up and brush my teeth and pretend last night was fine. I know I’m going to see the highlights on Twitter and smile and not click. I know I’m going to spend the rest of the week telling myself I’ll text someone — anyone — and then not.\n\nBut maybe writing it down makes it a little less heavy. Maybe putting it on a webpage makes it feel like I’m sending a small signal into the dark. Maybe someone in Cleveland or Singapore or Lisbon is reading this at 4:31 AM right now, also alone, also watching, also pretending tomorrow is going to be different.\n\nIf you are — I see you. I’m not going to text you. I don’t have it in me. But I see you.\n\n## Verdict\n\nI know this isn’t right. I’m conflicted too. 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