The Quiet Exhaustion At Work

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Has not used a single day of PTO in 2026.” }, “publish_date”: “2026-10-01”, “last_updated”: “2026-10-01”, “estimated_read_time”: “7 min”, “word_count”: 1680, “byte_count_estimate”: 9200, “content_markdown”: ”# The Quiet Exhaustion At Work\n\nIt’s 10:47 PM on a Tuesday and I’m sitting at my desk with the laptop still open, Slack notifications pinging in the background, and I haven’t moved in two hours. The cursor blinks on a doc I haven’t typed in since 4 PM. My tea went cold an hour ago. My shoulders are somewhere near my ears. And I keep telling myself — just one more email, just one more thing — even though I can’t remember what the one more thing was supposed to be. Outside, the city is doing its city thing. Cabs honking, someone yelling at their phone in Spanish, a dog barking three streets over. Inside my apartment, it’s just me and the hum of a MacBook fan that sounds like it’s begging for permission to stop.\n\n## The Sundays I Can’t Enjoy Anymore\n\nSundays used to be my favorite day. I loved them in that way you love something when you don’t have to think about what comes after. Now they’re this slow countdown to dread that starts around 8 PM and doesn’t stop until Monday morning hits me like a wall.\n\nAround 8 PM every Sunday, my stomach starts tightening. Not hunger. Not cramps. Just this slow clench that I know means the week is about to start again. By the time I brush my teeth at 11 PM, my chest has gone tight and I can feel my heartbeat in my neck, which is weird because I’m not even anxious about anything specific. There’s nothing to be anxious about. I have a job. I have a salary. I have a manager who, on paper, is reasonable. I have a hybrid schedule that lets me work from home three days a week, which everyone keeps telling me is a privilege. And it is. I know it is. I know a million people would trade places with me in a heartbeat, and that knowledge is part of what makes me feel worse, somehow. Because how dare I be this tired when I’m winning.\n\nI tried explaining it to my friend on Saturday. We were grabbing coffee near her place in Brooklyn and I was halfway through describing my Sunday routine when she just looked at me over her oat milk latte and said, “You sound like you’re describing a hostage situation, not a work week.” And I laughed. Because what else do you do when someone names the thing you’ve been refusing to name yourself. I took another sip and changed the subject to her dating life because that’s what I always do. I make it about someone else. I make it small. I make it manageable.\n\nI keep telling myself I’m being dramatic. I’m 28. I work in content marketing at a mid-size SaaS company. I make enough to live alone in a rent-stabilized apartment in Queens. I have PTO I never use. There is no reason I should be this tired. There is no reason my body should be doing the things it’s doing every Sunday night. And yet here I am, watching another Sunday melt into a Monday I don’t want, refreshing Slack on my phone like I’m checking on a sick relative.\n\n## The Slack Notification That Lives In My Chest\n\nLast Thursday my manager pinged me at 9:12 PM. The message was a single line: “Hey, quick favor — can you take a look at this before EOD tomorrow?” I knew, before I opened the link, that “quick favor” was going to eat my Friday. I knew it was going to mean another two hours of work I hadn’t budgeted for. And I typed “happy to help” before I even registered what I was agreeing to. The cursor blinked. He replied with a thumbs up. I closed my laptop and stared at the wall for thirty seconds and then opened it back up because the guilt of not opening it was louder than the guilt of opening it.\n\nThis is the part that gets me. It’s not the work. The work is fine. The work is, objectively, work I can do. I’ve been doing variations of this work for almost five years now. It’s that I can’t stop saying yes. My roommate walked past my room at 10:30 that night, peeked in, and said, “You’re doing it again.” I just laughed. What was I supposed to say? That I know? That I’ve known for six months? That I’ve started dreaming about Slack notifications and waking up at 3 AM convinced I missed a deadline that doesn’t exist?\n\nI have 847 unread Slack messages right now. I counted last night because I couldn’t sleep. I have 312 unread emails. I have three tabs open that have been open since August. None of this is catastrophic. None of it is even that hard. But the weight of all of it — of being always-on, always-available, always-one-message-away — sits on me like a second body. I can feel it when I’m trying to fall asleep. I can feel it when I’m watching TV. I can feel it when I’m eating dinner with friends and my phone buzzes and my whole chest goes cold and I check it under the table before I can stop myself.\n\nI used to have boundaries. Or at least I think I did. I remember being twenty-three and refusing to answer emails after 7 PM. I remember having hobbies that didn’t involve a screen. I remember reading books. I don’t remember when those things ended. I just know that one day I looked up and I was the person who responds to a 9 PM ping in eleven seconds and feels proud of herself for it, and that person is so tired she doesn’t even know where the tired ends and she begins.\n\n## When “Fine” Became My Entire Personality\n\nSomeone at work asked me last Friday how I was doing. I said “good, you?” in under a second. Didn’t even think about it. Just automatic. And then I walked back to my desk and sat down and realized I have no idea how I am. I don’t think I’ve known how I am in months. I just default to “fine” because fine is easy and fine doesn’t open a conversation I don’t have the bandwidth for. Fine is a closed door. Fine is me begging you not to ask the next question.\n\nMy therapist — yes I have one, yes it’s a privilege, yes I know — asked me last week to describe my energy on a scale of 1 to 10. I said 4. She said “and how long has it been a 4?” and I genuinely could not answer. I tried to remember the last time I felt like a 7 or an 8 and I couldn’t. I think I used to feel that way. I think in college maybe. I think before I had a job that required me to perform “doing okay” for 9 hours a day, 5 days a week, 50 weeks a year, on repeat, until the performance and the person blur into the same thing.\n\nThe exhausting part isn’t even the exhaustion. It’s that I’ve gotten so used to it that I’ve stopped noticing it. I forgot what “rested” felt like. I forgot what it felt like to not have a low hum of dread running underneath everything. I forgot what my face looks like when I’m actually relaxed. I saw a photo of myself from 2022 the other day, from a friend’s birthday on a rooftop in Bushwick, and I didn’t recognize the person in it. She looked so unbothered. She looked so light. She was laughing with her whole face. I miss her and I’m a little angry at her for not warning me.\n\n## The Body Knows Before The Brain Does\n\nI got a migraine last Tuesday at 2 PM in the middle of a standup. Right in the middle of saying “no blockers on my end.” The left side of my head just went white with pain and I had to mute my mic and close my eyes for thirty seconds. When I opened them, everyone had moved on. Nobody noticed. I unmuted and said my next point and the meeting ended and I went to the bathroom and cried for six minutes. Then I washed my face, reapplied concealer under my eyes, and went back to my desk.\n\nThat’s the thing about quiet exhaustion. It’s quiet. Nobody can see it. I show up. I deliver. I say the right things in the right tone at the right volume. My performance reviews are good. My KPIs are met. From the outside, I am a functioning adult. From the inside, I am a mess I can’t fully explain to anyone, including myself.\n\nI have a knot in my right shoulder that hasn’t gone away in fourteen months. I clench my jaw at night so hard I’ve chipped a molar. My hair started falling out in July — I find strands on my pillow, in the drain, on my black sweater every morning. I get dizzy if I stand up too fast. I wake up at 4 AM most nights and can’t get back to sleep. None of this is dramatic enough to talk about, which is exactly why I never talk about it. There’s no event. There’s no diagnosis. There’s just this slow grinding down that doesn’t make for a good story.\n\n## The Performance Review That Made Me Want To Disappear\n\nLast quarter I got “exceeds expectations” on my review. My manager said I was a “rock” and a “go-to” and “someone the team really relies on.” I sat there and nodded and smiled and said thank you and then went to the bathroom and cried for the second time that week. Because being a rock sounds great until you realize rocks don’t get to feel things. Rocks don’t get tired. Rocks don’t lie awake at 2 AM wondering if this is it, if this is just how it’s going to be for the next thirty-five years.\n\nI think the worst part is that I keep waiting for someone — my manager, my partner, my doctor, anyone — to look at me and say “you don’t have to keep doing this.” And nobody says it. Because from the outside, I’m fine. From the outside, I’m crushing it. From the outside, I have the kind of job people put on vision boards. From the inside, I’m running on caffeine and denial and a stubbornness I don’t even know the source of.\n\n## Landing\n\nI know this isn’t right. I’m conflicted too. 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